Five years ago today I met Stephen for the first time. It was a blind date. It had been a big day for me – I’d just sat and passed my restricted driver license and it was my first trip out alone with my car.
We met at Metro cinema, to see Man on Wire. I spied him before he saw me, and was instantly impressed – he was wearing a Serenity t-shirt. It’s one of my favourite movies! Less impressive were the sneans, but I chose to overlook that.
I wonder what his first impression of me was!?
We went into the theatre, had a brief awkward moment over the ticket payment (I paid for my own) and settled in. The movie was not especially memorable, but the company was. Before the movie started we talked about work and technology and gadgets and all manner of other things. We held hands in the movie and it was lovely.
Afterwards we went looking for somewhere to have coffee. The only place open in town was McDonalds. We grabbed a takeaway and sat in Cathedral Square beside the Chalice and chatted some more. An English couple came along and started talking to us about their trip, and asked us lots of questions about ourselves. They didn’t realise we were on our first date and we didn’t like to say. It was awkward and funny.
Stephen walked me back to my car (I had to be home by 10pm with my license curfew!), we had that strange half-hug-cheek-kiss thing and said goodbye.
I had no idea that night how much my life would change as a result of that night. All I knew is that he was cute and funny and sweet and I wanted to see him again. Which obviously I did. Our second date was Ironside Thai and a walk around the park. Our third date was Tulsi, a drive in the Port Hills, the beach. We’ve been inseparable ever since. It was love at third sight.
Stephen, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love your patience
I love your solidity, you are always there for me
I love that I can depend on you utterly and completely
I love that you laugh at me when I’m being stupid (it’s really annoying at the time!)
I love that when I ask you to, you take me seriously and listen hard
I love your humour – Dad jokes!
I love your energy and commitment to the things we do together
I love that you say, “if it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right”
I love that you have grown my world and we are fulfilling our wildest dreams together
I love that my children are your children, and your child is my child
I love that you are a committed and involved Dad, even when it’s awkward
I love how you’ve embraced being Poppa to Wyatt and Arlia
I love that you don’t let me boss you around
I love that you are smart
I love that you are always expanding your knowledge of things you are interested in
I love that you know how to slow down, and are teaching me how
I love that I get to spend all my days with you
I love you.