So I got married the other day. March 1st to be exact. It’s the day Stephen and I met, two years ago. It was a blind date, we went to see Man on Wire. And held hands. It was lovely. He was lovely. He proposed to me on March 1st last year, on our first anniversary. I’ve been planning this wedding for a year.
On our long walk home through the sludge and water on earthquake day, Phil and I talked about the wedding. Should Stephen and I still go ahead with it? Could we still do it, logistically? I wasn’t sure, but I knew that I had to give it a try. It wasn’t any random date, it was our day.
One of the first things I said to Stephen when we finally made it home was, “I still want to try and get married next week”. He wholeheartedly agreed. So we waited for the dust to settle, then we started the call-around. Some of the event team contacted us. They were just as concerned as we were that things go to plan. It added some normalcy to my everyday in a difficult time. Eventually everyone checked in and we were good to go.
In the end, our wedding wasn’t exactly as I planned it. Small details were forgotten, but it doesn’t matter. It was an amazing day for me. It made me cry to look out into the faces of my favourite people, smiling happily for me and Stephen. And to be able to see everyone, give them a hug, that was priceless.

Go you guys, thanks for inviting me, had a blast and feel honoured to be part of your special day.
Nick.
So very glad you guys went ahead with the wedding (gutted that we couldn’t be there). If anything could shine some light during this terrible time it is you and Stephen. xx
Congrats.
So glad you were able to go through with it all. When I heard the news one of my first thoughts was “What about Bebe’s wedding” because my brain works in weird ways. You don’t need everything to be perfect, at my grandparents wedding the dog ate the corner of the wedding cake, my grandma’s friends hid the damage with flowers and she didn’t even find out about it until years later. That’s the way it should work, you don’t need to focus on the tine things when you have the people you love with you.