Out and about

I’m sitting in Starbucks in Courtenay Place in Wellington. I finished work a little earlier today, so I’ve taken the opportunity to have a wander around the city. It’s dark and cold and raining and busy and kinda smelly, and totally awesome. I miss my city.

And I miss home today too. I love traveling as I’m sure you know, but I also really love my home and I miss it when I’m away. We are doing lots of exciting things at the moment and I don’t like that I’m missing out because I’m away.

Our new kitchen is slowly taking shape – we have new cabinetry and appliances and the bench arrives on Friday. Then we need to plaster, paint, lay new flooring and fix up a few other bits and bobs. It’s pretty much my dream kitchen…if I ever had such a thing. I’ll show you photos when it’s done (the big reveal).

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Bits and bobs

Jeez, it’s been a month since I last blogged. I’ve missed it from time to time over the month, but life has been so full-on I haven’t had the brain-space for clearly-worded thoughts!

Life has been really busy, but in that ‘awesome moving things forward’ kind of way, so it’s been exciting and good.

We are getting a new kitchen installed in a couple of weeks. We planned our kitchen not long after we bought the place just over a year ago, and it feels great to finally be putting our plans into action. The kitchen lay-out isn’t really changing at all – we like that it is semi-open plan, but still tucked out of the way when we are in the living room. We are getting all new cupboards and drawers, benches, cooktop and oven, fridge. I think it’s going to look amazing!

I’ve been training for the Christchurch Marathon 10km event. It’s been nice to have something to aim for when I’m running, it pushes me and keeps me focused. I ran a really good 8km last weekend, and a 10km today. My legs felt great and it was a nice smooth run. I’m looking forward to next Sunday.

We’ve been really busy socially too, lots of different events and fun things to do – movies and dinners and what-not.

And then there’s been heaps of skating, little trips here and there, Bronwen just started playing ice hockey, not to mention busy busy busy at work (but in a good way, interesting fun stuff).

It almost feels like we are spiraling up out of the holding pattern we’ve been in for the last year or so, finally moving all our little plans and dreams forward. Slowly slowly we are making progress.

Relationships

Most people spend most of their time with other people. I’m not sure I was adequately prepared for dealing with the complexities of these relationships. Nowadays the school curriculum focuses more attention on equipping children with the emotional skills needed to manage and maintain good relationships, which is great … but doesn’t really help me navigate my relationships as an adult.

I’m guessing most people learn about relationships from their parents and siblings – how to communicate, look after each other, express love, resolve conflict – so if you had good role models, you’re probably doing okay. Me on the other hand, let’s just say I’ve had to make it up as I’ve gone along.

Luckily I’ve had my wits about me these past 20-or-so years so I’ve picked up a few clues by watching others. Here’s a few of the things I’ve learned:

  • Treat your family as you would someone you’ve just met and really like. 
  • Pause before you take the next action or say the next word. 
  • Try to see things from the point of view of the other person. Their thoughts or actions probably make perfect sense to them. 
  • Sometimes it’s better to be happy than right (no matter how much you want them to know you’re right!).
  • Tell your loved ones you love them. You might not get the chance tomorrow. 
  • Love is an action, not just a word. You can show you care in a 1000 small ways every day. 
  • You are a champion and cheerleader of your familymembers – remember you’re on the same side. 
  • Relationships don’t just happen – you have to work at them everyday. If it’s a good relationship, it won’t feel like hard work. 

Now, I’m not saying I actually do all these things, but I do aspire to them.

What have you learned along the way?

On road cones and deconstruction

I’ve resumed running around my neighbourhood this week, and have noted changes in the month I was away.

When we left to go on our honeymoon, one of the things I was really looking forward to was driving on flat roads with no road cones. Road cones are a constant reminder to me of what has happened since February last year. I suspect that there are more road cones in Dallington today than there are people.

It’s great that work is being done on our underground pipes, don’t get me wrong. I love having a flush toilet and clean drinking water. But every day when I leave the house, I have to think carefully about how I’m going to get out of the suburb. Every few days the road cones are reconfigured and new streets are blocked off. This week our street has become a ‘residents only’ zone. We zig-zag through the road cones to make our escape for the day.

And then there is the red zone – the vast area of 5000 or so houses on land that has been deemed too damaged to repair. More than half of these houses are now empty. The weeds are growing up through the cracks in the pavements (waist high in some places!), lawns are becoming jungles, the potholes are holding their ground. I estimate around 5% of the houses have already been demolished.

I know one day I’ll live in a beautiful parkland with a lovely river flowing through it, native birds and plants as far as the eye can see. But for now, the place is a wreck and it makes me sad. I want it to be over, and it hasn’t even really begun yet.

No exit
No exit

Home and hosed

Actually, we landed last Friday morning, but I’ve had such a busy week there has been no time for blogging! I wanted to take a moment to write down my ‘tops’ before they disappear out of my brain.

Top day: Can I nominate them all? Lots of people have asked me what the highlight was, and it’s too hard to choose. Everyday was amazing and different and fun.

Top journey: The drive from Aberdeen to Edinburgh. Lovely countryside, lunch in St Andrews (and a cathedral and castle), a Pictish hill fort. This day had it all really.

Top town: It’s a pretty close race between Durham and York. York wins by a nose – it has a great vibe, with a very well preserved city wall, and free city wi-fi. We had two very happy days there.

Top castle: My favorite has to be Conwy in Wales. It was a great ruin to climb all over – you can take the 100s of steps up to the tallest towers for fantastic views of the city.

Top cathedral: That would be Wells, hands down. It has an amazing scissor arch that I’ve never seen anywhere else.

Top accommodation: Langley Castle. An actual bona fide 14th century castle! So cool.

Top meal: I had a delicious lamb shank at Hotel Noir in York. Mmmmm, yum. Expensive, but worth it.

Top ‘doh’ moment: The day I realized, 1 hour into a 3 hour drive, that I’d left my wallet at the hotel. So a 2 hour detour back to Bournemouth before we got to Glastonbury.

Top purchase: Well, the iPads of COURSE!

We really did have the most amazing time. There were no difficult or horrible moments, nothing really went wrong, we got along very well and had immense fun together. We had a budget and we stuck to it, but still did everything we wanted to do. We didn’t deny ourselves anything because it was too expensive. The trick was that we saved hard and had plenty to spend. We even managed to bring some money home!

And of course, we’ve already started planning the next visit – it’s the only way we can feel okay about all the cool places we didn’t get to see.

Day 21: Hampton Court Palace, and home

We decided to use our last day in London exploring Hampton Court Palace, 30 minutes from London central by train. This was the palace Henry VIII and his various wives, and the Edward VI (the boy king), William III of Orange and Mary II (England’s only co-regents), and Charles I and II. After this, Hampton Court fell out of favor as a royal palace and they lived elsewhere.

It’s a big place and very well preserved, but so different from the other royal dwellings we’ve seen – they’ve all been huge castles. The palace is quite dainty by comparison.
It was a lovely spring day in London today, so nice to just wander around and soak it all in before we went to Heathrow for the long journey home. We’ve had a great time, but we are definitely ready for home – family, familiarity and a comfy bed!

Day 20: Riding the Rails

We didn’t do any sightseeing at all today – just hung around London and rode around exploring on the Underground. We managed to collect some Light Blues and our last station (Marylebone) in the morning. We had lunch with our friend Phil at a local pub. Phil moved to London from Christchurch a few months ago, and seems to be having a great time here.

The afternoon was more Monopoly, with a lovely break at the Tower Bridge for ice cream and a sit down on the banks of the Thames.

We had dinner at the same place we did last night and met Maggie again after class. We went to a toy store on Oxford Street that has five levels! One level is devoted entirely to Lego. Awesome.

Even though we didn’t really do much, we arrived home exhausted and grateful to sink into bed. Home tomorrow! There is much packing to be done.

Day 19: St Paul’s and Westminster Abbey

We were out of the flat early again this morning. We stopped on our way to collect Bond St, then headed for St Paul’s Cathedral. The original church on this site was destroyed in the Great Fire of London in 1666 (though it was already in ruins after the Reformation). The current cathedral was designed by Sir Christopher Wren in 1669. Its also his final reseting place. The crypt below the cathedral contains the tombs of Horatio Nelson and the Duke of Wellington. They are huge monuments.

Because it was built from the ground up in the 17th century, this church looks quite different from all the Norman and Gothic churches we’ve seen. The columns are square rather than round, and the ceilings are arched rather than vaulted. I’m imagining that Wren was very fashion-forward with his design.

The next stop was Westminster Abbey. It’s a strange place. Ostensibly, looks very like many other cathedrals we’ve visited. But this cathedral bristles with historical figures. It was first built in 1065, and then remodeled several times in the next 500 or so years. It contains the tombs of Edward the Confessor, Edward I, Henry III, Richard II, Mary Queen of Scots, Elizabeth I, Queen Anne and a vast assortment of other royals, poets, statesmen etc etc. The effect is a packed jumble of monuments and tombs that span 1000 years. You can’t move without standing on someone important!

We wandered our way up past 10 Downing Street to Trafalgar Square, and went to the National Gallery. This contains some of my favorite art works – Sunflower by van Gogh and Madonna of the Rocks by Da Vinci, as well as Cezanne, Monet, Renior, Raphael, Rubens. It’s pretty stunning stuff.

And then, more! We went to the top of the world – on the London Eye. Amazing views of the city from a giant ferris wheel, 135m up. It’s pretty freaky, but very cool.

We retired to our room for a rest, and then just as we were starting to think about dinner, Maggie called to see if we wanted to meet her – she’d just finished her class at University of Westminster. We met at Oxford Circus for dinner and more excellent conversation.

St Paul’s from the Millennium Bridge

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Riding the rails

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Day 18: Tower of London

We intended to be out of the flat early this morning, and we were hurried along by a fire alarm at 7:30am. We grabbed our gear for the day and left. I noticed that only two other people actually left the building!

We popped down to the local Starbucks for coffee, and concocted a plan to entertain ourselves for the morning on the trains. We’ve decided to visit as many of the 26 place cards on the Monopoly board as we can – 22 streets and 4 stations. I’ll take a picture of each one and post them up on a separate page. It’s a great way to see all different parts and it keeps us occupied when we are waiting for attractions to open in the morning, and after they close in the afternoon.

So we went Monopoly hunting for a couple of hours this morning, and then landed at the Tower of London. We did a power-visit of the castle complex. It’s very much like the other castles we’ve visited – so good to complete the story by seeing the place in which so much history has taken place.

Next stop was the British Museum. It bemused Stephen to note that, 30 minutes into our visit to the Museum, all we’d managed to find was the coat check, two cafes, the New Zealand collection, and a toilet. That’s what happens when Bebe is in charge of the map.

The British Museum building is magnificent, and the collection is staggering. There are treasures from every corner of the world. every time I visit, I can’t help but be reminded of Britain’s colonial past – the museum is a collection of everything they have taken from others as they pillaged their way around the world in the past. On the other hand, it has collected in one place and preserved thousands of years of human history. It’s overwhelming to see it all together like that, but also very enlightening.

We went back to our room for a sit down and did some laundry, and then went back out again, for coffee and dinner with Stephen’s friend Maggie. It was nice to hang out with someone other than each other, and Maggie was great company.

The White Tower, at the Tower of London. Built by William the Conquerer in 1078, and a prison for Richard II and Edward V amongst others.

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View of the Reading Room, British Museum

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Day 17: Cambridge – London

Our destination this morning was the Supadance shop in Wessex, on the outskirts of greater London. They sell ballroom and Latin dance shoes. In New Zealand, if you want dance shoes, they will come from England, from this shop. That makes them very expensive in New Zealand, and much cheaper at the shop in Wessex! We got shoes for me, Stephen and Bronwen for the same price that we’d get one pair in NZ. Bonus!

From there we skirted around London on the ring road and dropped the rental car off at Heathrow. So long Juke, you were fun.

And then we were off for our London adventure. The hotel we had initially booked was unavailable, so the hotel had offered another place. It took 3 hours, 2 tube changes, 2 light rail changes and a 15 minute walk (carrying our packs!) to get there. Not exactly central. I climbed the three flights of stairs to our room with trepidation. It looked more like a suburban flat than a hotel apartment. As soon as I saw the place I said no. It was dirty and old and very clearly not a hotel. We turned around, and high-tailed it outta there. We regrouped at the local pub and found a hotel apartment close to the tube and right by Kensington Gardens. Fab!

So 5 hours after leaving our car at the airport, we set our bags down in our tiny but functional apartment. It has a comfy bed, a kitchen, a dining table – everything we need to be happy.

We didn’t stay in the apartment for long – we had a city to explore! First stop was the local curry house for some sustainence. Satisfied, we headed down to Regent St to visit the glorious Apple Store, and then wandered down Regent to Piccadilly Cirus. It was bustling with people, and fancy shops.

We finished our day with a coffee at the Starbucks by the hotel, and then retired to plan our next few days. It’s going to be fun!